For the bachelorette party, usually is the bride, maid of honor, bridesmaids and close friends of the bride.

 In my situation, the bride to be invited HER mom, Her older aunts (her mother's sisters) etc to a dinner get together out of town and also my underage daughter (who she felt obligated to have in her wedding party).  I was a little hurt, and felt this woman hated me from day ONE.  My daughter could NOT attend the festivities afterward - even the old ladies left so I don't see why I couldn't also be invited to the dinner thing.  Have a little get together before you LET LOOSE. But don't invite YOUR MOTHER and NOT HIS.  I felt left out. Rejected. Hated by the woman marrying MY SON.  But she was raised to be rude and because of many more mean terrible things this person has done to me and people I love, I cannot have anything to do with her.  I feel I was stuck with the worst dil in the world. But I dont' have to deal with her - I am sure the story she tells is not the truth.  For I was left out and not even told why.  I felt she also HAD to ask me to be at the wedding. And at the rehearsal when my son sat me, her mom asked "what is he an usher now?"  See how these people are?