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Unsaved husband and Im so tired
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Is there anyone out there? Im so tired and weary. I could realy use a pick me up from a mature christian woman who understands. I just dont know what to do anymore. What are my boundries? Where do I stand? How can I be a good christian wife to this man and be pleasing to God and to my husband? I love him dearly, but there are so many problems and complications. I feel like Im being torn in half these days. Why dont I feel as strong as I used to? So many questions and I feel so confused.
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There are many things that past your way being a Christian, but I can assure you that you need to trust in God for giving you the strength to get through these tedious time, biting you on your heels. for feeling down and torn in two, you need to take a good look at yourself, and find the more reason where this all started.
What is pulling you into the mud? I am with a man that does not believe in God at all, but he understands completely how i feel, and has respect therefore. You need to establish where you want to be, and what you want to do. If he loves you as dearly as you love him, there would be mutual respect between the two of you. Never give up praying for him. I do, and you know what I can see how the Lord is working towards my prayers, as questions are being asked, referrals are being made, and I have won his respect regarding my religion.
Don't give up, but do try and get your selfrespect back before trying to cope with anything else. Look yourself in the eye, and say I can do this, but as you say it, you have to BELIEVE it to.
Good luck Sweaty, trust in our Lord, as He is the only one that can carry you through every day.
God bless you
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Well, remember that you had your husband before you got saved and I think that God is such a loving God (he wants all of us to be saved) that he would not want you to leave your husband. You are going to be the one (by your actions) to show your husband how good it is to be saved. The bible does say that by your good works, your husband will see the "Jesus" in you. Your husband is your cross, so you have to take "your cross" up daily. Don't nag him. Pray for him and let God do the rest. I know many in your shoes. I know it is hard, but this is your test of perseverance that the Bible talks about and this is your reasonable service to God. What you are trying to do is to fix your husband yourself. That is not your job. Your job is to pray for him and love him and let God do the rest. | | Poor Taste?
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Ive been married for 13 years. I was saved before we got married and I used think he was at least in the beginning. Of course I wasnt a very mature christian then either. Anyway, about 9 years ago I finally found a church where Ive grown in leaps and bounds since and he hasnt even the smallest desire to step in a church, which certainly isnt my job to fix (which I learned years ago). The hard part is constantly being on different pages and seeing so vividly how lost and worldly he is. Being surrounded by all the things I desprately dont want in my life much less our kids lives. Im just tired. I understand my place here, and have no intentions of leaving, things have just gotten out of control and every time I give it to the Lord, I seem to end up right back here again taking it back. I feel like as a Godly wife I have failed miserably lately in my "silent testemony" by things I say or do out of frustration. I did find some realy helpful sites last night though and am trying to understand what I need to be and how to and why and God is slowly clearing my confusion. Still a tad weary tho. Tired but still marching forward!lol thnx for the comment and any others that would be helpful would be appreciated. | | Poor Taste?
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I have desperately tried to make a post here. Lets try again. I am in the same boat as you are but one thing I have learnt is that we have to give this over totally to God and not take it back. Once we take it back, God takes His hands off and cannot perform. It is difficult but it just teaches us to trust in Him 100%. Remember that no matter how bad the situation seems or how bleek it is,God is in control and He has heard your prayers. He is working behind the scenes on our behalf, even if it does not look like it, keep your confessions positive. Do not let the Devil tempt you to speak negatively here. Another thing is that you need to walk the walk and not talk the talk, nagging, begging and pleading is going to get you nowhere. This is a spiritual battle and only God can change it. YOu have to keep going and remember that greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world. He is your only strength and you need to draw from His strength. Dont get into arguements about what you believe as it only causes bigger problems, you husband needs to see the difference in you, you are all he needs to read and if you can keep it up, it will bear fruit. Keep going and remember, you are not alone. God is standing besides you as you walk thru the fire and He will get you to the other side. Just be strong and keep your faith. | | Poor Taste?
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I am in the same situation but I stand firm on serving God. My husband knows that God is first in my life. I am very active in my church AND in my home. My home is not disrupted because I am in church. I go to church and still have a clean home, clean children, meal on the table and I make my husband feel "special." I have realized that it is the devil trying to destroy my marriage. And because I have the Holy Spirit....that is a lost for the devil. He can NEVER win a battle as long as I have Jesus on my side. Pray...pray...pray. Read the word...Study the word. Give daily devotion to God. Speak life into your husband and tell the devil to get out of your husband's mind, soul, actions, vocabulary, etc. NEVER do anything for and to your husband that will disrupt your relationship with God.
My husband is not saved yet but I still have my joy and I am thanking God in advance because I know it will happen. IF is not a part of my vocabulary anymore when God is involved. It is When....When....When...When....Meaning I know it will happen.
Peace! | | Poor Taste?
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i stumbled across this forum by mere chance when i googled my problem in the search bar ...yeah google isn't so bad after all.
anyways.....i really feel for you fuzzycheeto...i am a christian wife who hasn't been married a year yet to a man that portrayed himself to be a christian while we dated and now i am finding out that he is draining our finances to buy drugs and i am facing eviction within the week :( So yes......its very hard to find strength and faith when we go through such trials in life......i know i am struggling hard to keep some sort of godly fruit about me, cause my flesh just wants to wring his neck for what he has done to us financially, emotionally etc.
He has lied, deceived me and his mother to get money and has drained our checking account and left me pretty much to pay for our upkeep here along with his 14 year old son. So blindly i have trusted him several times after kicking him out, letting him back home and then finding out he once again has lied and taken money for a bill to buy drugs.
i have prayed and i shall keep on praying....i am struggling with the hurt and anger in my heart and i am realllllllly trying to forgive him.....but remember this...
...........the Lord hears our cry's and i know in my heart that He will be my vindicator and i know that i am unable to change my husband......the Lord will have to intervene and do it ALL!!!
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