In order to get in, you have to identify the necessary criteria to be where you want to be.  To do this you must observe the characteristics that are similar among those who are already there, where you want to be.  After making a list of those observations, you have to do some introspective observing of your own personal criteria, to see if who and what you are, fits with those who inhabit the place that you want to be “in”.  Then you must complete an even more difficult task. If you do meet the necessary criteria to blend with those who are in, then you must express yourself so that they will recognize that you belong, and the portal will open. HOWEVER, if you do not possess whatever it is that will let you in, you can fake it, and hope they won’t discover the flaws; or you can decide that when you find the “right place” for you, no effort will be required.  The right “in” is easily achieved when you are true to yourself, and the result is peace and happiness.