i occasionally get a little
rough with my kids. not abusive, just pysical (as opposed to entirely hands-free). when i was a kid, i would have been seen as a relatively easy parent, because i rarely spank, but todays media always tells us that this is WRONG. Any other heavy-handed parents out there?
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Spare the rod and spoil the child they always say. Nothing wrong with it if it is done the right way! | | Poor Taste?
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It’s a world today where the kids that have fine things seem
to take them for granted. Being a
witness to this kind of “entitlement attitude” of some children, whose parents
give in and get them anything and everything, I have noticed a disturbing side
effect. These kids have no respect for
adults. The disrespect shows in their
behavior toward their parents and their peers, teachers, other adults, and
people in positions of authority.
Studies show that the “heavy hand” teaches children to be violent, and
that even one or two experiences with corporal punishment from parents, leaves
them with some trauma that will be repeated by them in their lifetime. What is the answer to the dilemma? Many think that it is called boundaries and
consequences. Setting clear guidelines
that define acceptable behavior in the family, and in public, give the child a
sense of what will and will not work.
Having consequences when the rules are broken, simple but effective ones
like: no computer, no telephone time,
being grounded, no car keys; whatever they value, it is diminished or taken
away when they make a mistake. This action teaches them to think and then
act. This works far better then a moment
of inflicted pain that leaves a lifetime of emotional scarring.
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