I want to bring this up for discussion because many of the women i meet seem to tell me some thing other than what they really want.  I am a black man, a young black man currently still in school and making wonderful progress.  there seems to be a problem however, when i meet a women who seems genuinely interested in me it always turns out that i am not the man she is looking for or she's otherwise involved.   this news always comes after i feel confident enough too tell her the truth about my past, which is that i've spent a considerable amount of my teenage life in prison for a few irresponsible mistakes i made while young and dumb.  women tell me they want a nice guy, some one who is educated, working and will remain honest and true no matter the circumstance…and the story continues.  why then do many of them feel that i am not worth an opportunity to prove that i can be that man and more?  why is it that women always seem to choose the man who will inevitably cause them the most heart ache and still has his greatest mistakes ahead of him?  i don't want to hear that i am not meeting the right women, because i don't buy that argument for one second.  i am a very social person, and as you can see one with quite a bit to say.  it has nothing to do with my personality or that i am unattractive.  i know that much for sure.  i honestly believe that for the most part women are dishonest and they want to be lied to.  as a woman, i want whoever may be reading this to answer me this question.  these same women who are rejecting me in favor of a less controversial character, do they expect that i will grow older and forget?  in my older years choose them to be my wife and mother of my children?  such a narrow-minded women i will profess my un-dying love and devotion to?  and for the women i do meet in my older years,  do they honestly believe that i will succumb to the reasoning of them being different, when every young woman i meet seems to think in a way not unlike what i've mentioned?  maybe i am being a bit too harsh.  let's suppose that i am bad mouthing women and proposing the same treatment for them as i am receiving now.  in other words i want them to look beyond my past and see the potential, yet in turn i am not willing to do the same.  should i be the better man here, and accept them when they do come to their senses? or should i forever remain the dissatisfied bachelor?  again i would like to hear a women's opinion.  is my reasoning justified?